Some people simply don’t want to be saved by you. In the beginning, they may act like they want change, but the truth is that they have to figure it out and do it on their own. You simply can’t do it for them. As an entrepreneur that has learned the power and rewards of starting my own business, when I see a friend that wants more in their life, I instinctually want to do whatever I can to help them. I will encourage them that they can achieve whatever they want to. I remember the days when I had no support and what it was like to battle great odds alone. It’s a hard road to go down without the positive support that you need. I wish I had found mine much earlier. Probably would have made things a lot easier.
I will tell these people to go out and create their own life. That they can do anything they set their life to. I am such a firm believer in the power of human potential that I know anyone despite where they are in life, can become a success if they simply have the passion and determination to do it. But I have also found that they have to do it for themselves. It doesn’t matter how hard you try, you can’t do it for them. No power on earth can help the person that has no belief in themselves or the true desire for change. They have to reach their own personal boiling point that says, “Ok, I’m not going to live like this anymore. Time to change things up.”
As my business partner puts it, “You can give them the hammer, but they are going to have to swing at the nails.” It has to be their decision to change and no one else. Otherwise they will stay the same regardless of how much help or support you give them. There is something deep inside that keeps them from advancing. Until they discover it and fight like hell to defeat it, they will not change. The only thing you can do for them is to encourage and be there for them and hope that they will find it in themselves. They have to truly want it inside. I have the tendency to want to jump up and try to be the hero for them. I have learned that no matter what you do or say you can’t save them. They have to save themselves.
“I have come to understand that success and prosperity had almost nothing to do with opportunities, chance, luck – or even training, education, or skill. It had everything to do with your personal consciousness, beliefs, and even subconscious programming that you aren’t aware of.” – Randy Gage.
“If you want to be more, you have to become more.” Jim Rohn
If you want to get where you want to go, you have to Dump Your Duds. Your duds are clients, people and friends that are going to hinder your success or keep you from moving forward. They might be close friends, family members or even your old fraternity or sorority members. It’s anyone that does not encourage you to become more. This was something I have had to learn the hard way. I held on to for a long time to my duds thinking they were my friends. Truth be told they really weren’t. They were encouraging me not to do something worthwhile and it took me along time to realize it. 
There are two lessons that I have learned that has influenced me more than anything else. I learned them from two great speakers,
Recently, I had a conversation with someone where when asked how they were doing, they responded with: “Just trying to get by.” I asked them what they meant by that and was told that they were just trying to pay the bills and survive. This person had once been full of life and ambition and now seemed entirely depressed about life. 
